Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Year's

I once heard that where you are when Midnight strikes is a prediction of how your year will go.
Ok, since I am a woman of great intelligence, I have lived by this for, like, the last 5 years. So here is it New Year's Eve and I have no big plans.

Know what? WHO CARES?!

My year will go exactly the way it's supposed to. It won't matter if I am picking $1 million dollars off a money tree. That won't help my financial situation. (Unless it's MY tree!)

If I am not with the love of my life, I will not be cursed and doomed in love for 2009.

If my kids are happy at exactly 12 AM, does that guarantee they will be good for a whole year?

Yeah, I didn't think so. Wishful thinking though!

I was raised as a princess. Not just any princess, mind you. I was the princess in the tower, who had her brave knight to rescue her. Who, once rescued, would never have a bad day. Ever.

Divorce was possibly the best thing that ever happened to me. Sad, yes. Complicated, yes. But, it taught me that there is no magical easy answer to anything!

Reality check! :)

I have learned to stand on my own two feet. I am raising 4 kids BY MYSELF. I do not get every other weekend to relax and regroup for the coming 2 weeks. I do not get child support to ease the financial burden. I have no family or church financial backing either.

So, yea Janine. You did it!
My New Year's Resolution? STOP stressing about things I cannot control. Hating my ex-husband will not make him take the kids. Envisioning him dying is not going to get him child support.

(Yes, I know there's a reserved cactus chair in hell with my name on it...)
Complaining is not going to make things easier. There is no White Horse waiting. I need to build my own. Or like the one I have....a 1997 green one with 177,988 miles on it...LOL!
Here's to a NEW year! A NEW chance! Happy New Year everyone! Make it count!


Krista said...

I wish you a BLESSED New Year! I hope you get a lot of blessings! Love ya!

My LIttle Family: said...

Happy New Year - I hope it is a good one for you and your family. I also left you a comments on Ratlover. Hey, don't want to get in your business, but that exhusband of yours NEEDS to help you with at the very least financial support. You and your kids deserve his support. What the heck is wrong with him?!?!?!? By the way, I don't think you will be sitting on a cactus but I like the image for some other people I know, LOL.

Christina said...

Cheers and Happy New Year! Divorce and single mom-hood is not what any of us would have asked for - yet you handle it with such grace. Having walked in shoes similar to yours I too am grateful for lessons learned from divorce and the growth it brought me. As for that cactus chair - - envision it encircled with fire and brimstone and all those non child-support paying men shoeless and wearing nothing but loin cloths! That would be fair, dontcha think? ;o)

Eli's Lids said...

You are awesome and I think it is healthy to be angry at someone who screwed you over... the people talk talk talk like everything is fine when it isn't end up in a carzy home!! Blessings from me to you! As soon as I update my Lid Lovers links you'll be on it!!


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